Only the truth of who you are, if realized, will set you free. – Eckhart Tolle
Being authentic is an important trait that I admire in people who demonstrate this quality on a continuous basis. When you are truly being yourself (quirkiness and all) is when your true brand shines. I recently listened to the book Crush It! by Gary Vaynerchuk on Audible and this was an important topic he discussed in great detail. Vaynerchuk emphasized how important being your true self is even if it means people not liking you. He goes on to mention that there will be people who do like you for who you are and those are the people you want to be connected to. It is better to have this black and white division of people who do and don’t like you as opposed to trying to be everything to everyone.
This notion of being authentic or free is something that I have been trying to work on both personally and professionally. I can’t tell you how many times I consider NOT doing something because of how someone may react or what someone may think. I am not being real to myself in these scenarios. The trick here is to look deep within yourself and commit to being genuine with respect to your thoughts and beliefs.
Below are 3 things I’ve been trying to work on to seek more freedom and happiness in my own life.
- Not holding on to grudges – This is the most important area for me. Letting go of all grudges regardless of the circumstances relinquishes any anger or resentment towards that individual. Also, trying not to place judgement on people and respecting them for who they are is critical as well. By letting go of that emotional baggage I think I will encounter more inner peace.
- Being honest with myself – Being really honest with myself and others is important as well. This is especially important when you make a mistake. Owning up to your mistake and being honest about it is a surefire way to freedom. We all make mistakes and it is better to face up and talk through them. Also, it is really important for me to be honest with others as well. This does not have to be in an abrasive manner but it is good to speak your mind if there is a misalignment with another person’s point of view.
- Do what you say or preach – Part of being honest with yourself is to hold yourself accountable for things in your life. Therefore, if you say you are going to do something then hold yourself accountable and do it. If you commit to something (even if you don’t like or enjoy it) then finish or complete it. The key here is to act in a responsible manner and holding your self to a certain standard. I believe that people want to be associated and do business with someone who is reliable and can be counted on when they need you.
I am not trying to be a Yogi here but I do feel I need to work on again being more authentic. I need to be more authentic with myself, my wife, my friends and more importantly with my kids. I want to set a good example for them and I need to demonstrate this trait on a continuous basis.